While I agree that privilege brings with it the added privilege of seeming invisible, and while little boys and girls continue to be drawn to externally-defined gender roles, the fact is that we learn patriarchy first and foremost at home. As such, I don't think Ewigweibliche's little boy will have any excuse to act in the way that you describe, which we would all consider like a jerk--just as her little girl would have every reason to live as her strong, proud self.

There's no need to swim upstream when all a boy wants (what he really, really wants) is to be bravely loving and humanely great. I can't help but think of this expected little boy that way.