"No" is such a simple, straightforward word. It doesn't seem open to much interpretation to me. "Stop" likewise.
I think that I have finally persuaded one of my partners that my default answer regarding sex is "yes, please! here?" ( ;) ) -- but until that point, which involved an fairly wide-ranging, detailed, pretty damned explicit conversation, he asked *every time.* Not just when we started, even, but explicitly before PiV intercourse regardless of what else I had already enthusiastically consented to. (And no -- believe me! -- that wasn't a mood-breaker!) And just for reference? That conversation was, I think, at least a year after we started having sex - maybe/probably more, since it's an LDR.
*That should be normal.* Not universal, maybe -- I'll settle, in most cases, for absolute respect of a verbal "No, stop" -- but normal.
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I think that I have finally persuaded one of my partners that my default answer regarding sex is "yes, please! here?" ( ;) ) -- but until that point, which involved an fairly wide-ranging, detailed, pretty damned explicit conversation, he asked *every time.* Not just when we started, even, but explicitly before PiV intercourse regardless of what else I had already enthusiastically consented to. (And no -- believe me! -- that wasn't a mood-breaker!) And just for reference? That conversation was, I think, at least a year after we started having sex - maybe/probably more, since it's an LDR.
*That should be normal.* Not universal, maybe -- I'll settle, in most cases, for absolute respect of a verbal "No, stop" -- but normal.