My feminism doesn't only fight for the rights of women. My objection to the "what about the men" in such a context is that it derails a conversation that needs to happen and all too often is shut down by men as speakers or subjects.

To my mind, it's like bursting into a geometry classroom where it's just been taught that the angles of a triangle add up to 180 and saying, "not if it's drawn on the surface of a sphere!" While that fact is perfectly true and very important, the class on Euclidean geometry will grind to a total halt if it's taken up right there.