I don't think it got lost. I think the discussion that's occurring is productive. It just didn't go where you expected.

Maybe because there's not much to say about women hating women. Yeah, that's sad. And it happens a lot. We can all agree on that. Rape is bad. We can all agree on that. Survivor-blaming is terrible and compounds the initial violation of the rape. I don't think anyone here has disagreed with your premise. We can all be angry about that, but for me at least, anger makes me tired. There's just too much for me to be angry about right now, personally and politically. I guess I'd rather talk theory and problematize and challenge existing paradigms with the hope of creating some new ones. Maybe that's my bad, my defense mechanism, and I should have kept it to myself or taken it to my own journal.

It sounds like you're upset about how the discussion proceeded, so I'm sorry if I contributed to that. I know I can be dogmatic and pushy when I get ahold of an idea that interests me. I was told a long time ago that arguing with me was like arguing with a brick wall, and it's probably still true.