Unfortunately I was a victim blamer when I was younger. I didn't move past it until I had my own "fuzzy experiences". Can't call them rape, but I sure was taken advantage of by a few people.

I agree wholeheartedly with the person above who mentions it being an issue of control, but there's another harmful myth associated with rape being a so-called crime of passion. A lot of people seem to believe that only beautiful women are raped, but if an "ugly" woman is raped, she should count herself lucky that she attracted the attention of said rapist. It's that whole woman-against-woman attitude that our society can create.