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And the winner is....
After a night of horrible anxiety dreams (deformed babies, grief, etc) we went to The Ultrasound this morning. Took over an hour. The little baby is nestled deep into my pelvic bowl. The part where I'm large? Inconsequential. The technician had to cram that wand into my right hip bone and pubic bone to get at the babe. But all parts are a-okay! Healthy, squirmy, stubborn. That's my kid.
And what kind of parts? BOY parts. Very obviously a boy. I was deeply attached to a girl - felt girl, had strong feelings for a girl name.... so of course I came home and cried my eyes out. I'm disappointed. To my guy friends: it's not you, it's me. I'll get over this. In the end it doesn't matter at all. He'll be cute and wonderful and thank god moms get flooded with hormones that make us think our kids are the greatest things since cheese.
What I'm really nervous about is, my family - both immediate and extended - only come in pairs. Whatever the first was, the second was. Adam is one of two boys. His mother is one of four girls in a row before the boy. I would bet good money on the fact that I am now going to have a boy filled family. I wish I didn't feel resigned in that, but I do. At least my father now has the boy he always wanted.
As for names, Adam's leaning toward Beckett William. He'll have Adam's last name (since the girls would've/will get mine). I have no real opinions. Perhaps this will change.
And what kind of parts? BOY parts. Very obviously a boy. I was deeply attached to a girl - felt girl, had strong feelings for a girl name.... so of course I came home and cried my eyes out. I'm disappointed. To my guy friends: it's not you, it's me. I'll get over this. In the end it doesn't matter at all. He'll be cute and wonderful and thank god moms get flooded with hormones that make us think our kids are the greatest things since cheese.
What I'm really nervous about is, my family - both immediate and extended - only come in pairs. Whatever the first was, the second was. Adam is one of two boys. His mother is one of four girls in a row before the boy. I would bet good money on the fact that I am now going to have a boy filled family. I wish I didn't feel resigned in that, but I do. At least my father now has the boy he always wanted.
As for names, Adam's leaning toward Beckett William. He'll have Adam's last name (since the girls would've/will get mine). I have no real opinions. Perhaps this will change.
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And yes, I am so glad that all is well in the medical realm.
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I like your decision to give boys Adam's last name and girls yours. That's my favorite solution for the name dilemma.
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The naming thing can be such a drag, but Adam and I came to this solution long before we ever tried to have kids and we're settled with it. I think it'll be good.
anecdotal evidence...
(Anonymous) 2008-02-13 06:28 am (UTC)(link)Re: anecdotal evidence...
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I know you aren't excited right now about a boy...but you will be. I love my boy and I was soooo relieved that I didn't have a girl.
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I realized too that I am more tomboy than I like to admit so me having a girl would have been silly anyways. I much prefer the mud to the makeup.
I promise, the disappointment will pass. This is partially hormones. You will be back in love with your baby before you know it. Penis and all.
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But as soon as he arrived, I realized that actually I really just wanted a Spencer all along, but didn't know it. He is, of course, wonderful.
He definitely already seems pretty "boy" and energetic, which wasn't what I thought i wanted, and it is exhausting. But one friend of mine says that you get the children you need to teach you the lessons you most need to learn, and I can already see how that' so.
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Your last line has me scared! What lessons do I need to learn? *starts glancing panicky all around*
Advice from Hrafntinna??!!11??
The word "son" up there struck me. It sounds different than "boy," which makes me think trains, blue, blah blah blah, the baby stuff, the little boy stuff. You're disappointed that you're having a boy -- okay. But you're going to have a _son_. There's going to be this independent person who's Niki's _son_. Wow.
Is it just me?
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Dooce
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All in good time!
And as for the boy & girl thing - boys fall in LOVE with their mommies in the most delightful way. Way so much sweeter than sugar and spice. ;}
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But just remember that little boys can have lots of fun doing "girl-things" with mommy, just like little girls can have lots of fun doing "boy-things". I think its difficult to deal with wanting a girl and getting a boy moreso than the other way around. Probably because its so much more socially acceptable for girl children to wear boy clothes or do male oriented activities, whereas boys don't get that leeway in our society.
Now that I've gone off on a tangent.
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Anyhoo, Statistics will only take you so far and while there's a pattern in the genders, you're looking at the patterns in the mothers rather than the fathers.
Given that it's the sperm that decide the gender of a child, what do the patterns of the fathers and grandfathers suggest?
All that aside, congratulations on a healthy boy :-D
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