Cheating?

[theatokos]

Bennett is finally big enough (10lbs!!) and stable enough for the swing. This allows for longer, steadier naps, which mean that I can get more done. Rationally, it seems like a win-win situation.

So why does it feel like cheating? Where in the world does this irrational guilt come from?

Comments

[inkprincess.livejournal.com]

Lily's in her swing now. nothing wrong with it!

[keypike.livejournal.com]

motherhood brings so much guilt, it's insane.

Using the swing isn't cheating - it's a tool in a Mom's tool box. I just make sure Henry has lots of cuddle time to make up for any time spent in the swing (or any other time spent out of our arms).

[ewigweibliche.livejournal.com]

I like your thinking, lady!

[said-by-me.livejournal.com]

As moms we are often irrational... you and B went through so much in the beginning, its really not surprising that being a tiny bit less hands on somehow causes guilt

[ewigweibliche.livejournal.com]

Our beginning has brought us some amount of freedom - like, B is so chill with other people. But it's hard to tell if it's just his temperment or if the socialization of the NICU had anything to do with it. But then, I also have ingrained issues with being a selfish person period. And perfectionist tendencies. SIGH.

[said-by-me.livejournal.com]

Give it about 6 months and the perfectionist stuff will start to fade a little... it does just out of self preservation

[bloodfever.livejournal.com]

I don't know where it comes from either but I know exactly what you mean :(

[ewigweibliche.livejournal.com]

And I'm not even Catholic!

[jesamin.livejournal.com]

It's the mom guilt. Addie has taken the pacifier for the last two days. I celebrated for five minutes and then lapsed into a horrible oh my goodness this must mean I'm neglecting my child because look! She's sitting in her chair with a pacifier in her mouth and batting at her toys and I'm not holding her, she'll be ruined train of thought. Joel had to literally talk me down off my crazy ledge because really? A smidgen of a break wherein I can pee without a babe tied to me? Is not that bad of a deal. So embrace the swing!

[ewigweibliche.livejournal.com]

Oh my goodness, me + the crazy ledge = intimate friends. Not so much around the baby, oddly, but still. If I see you there, we'll hang out.

[livingdeadpan.livejournal.com]

Natural selection favors mom guilt. :D

[ewigweibliche.livejournal.com]

Of course! Science to the rescue!

[snowcalla.livejournal.com]

The swing is fantastic. No guilt. It is one of the very first steps in seperation from mommie. Important to do that slowly and in very small steps.