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Bennett knows the word 'man.' He'll see a picture of one or a man on the street and say 'man!' This morning while getting dressed he was saying the word and listing some of his favorite characters. I said 'Sokka is a man. Papa is a man. Mama is a woman. And Bennett is a boy, who will become a man.' He shook his head. I said 'You don't want to be a man?' He shook his head. 'Do you want to be a woman?' He nodded his head vigorously.

Let the gender games begin!

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That is utterly delightful.

lol!! It's so funny how kids like to play with and explore gender. Adorables :)

Bennett is the best . . .

I think so!

I love it!

:) I recommend indonesian sarongs for a start. Very masculine, feminine and gender neutral at the same time. ;)

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Gwydion

Awesome :-) I heart your child and I love that you asked this question.

Hi - going back over LJ to see what I've missed.

I don't think this has anything to do with gender - the kid wants to be like his mama. Right now, you are who he is attached to and you are his love. Who can blame him?

I don't love that you asked him this question and I don't hate that you asked him this question. I just don't see it as relevent yet. Heh...and it's not my place to love or hate it. We parents get so hung up in our own personal identities and trying to Do It Right so we don't Fuck Them Up that we usually end up doing exactly what we didn't want to do. Which is pushing our life agenda onto our kids. We all make our kids into our own, private social experiments.

This sounds like I'm being an ass, or critical, or judging - I'm not. Just saying that no matter what you do, the kid is still going to go to therapy and blame his mother. ;) If it isn't because you were a close-minded bitch it will be because you embarrassed or confused him with your wacked out ideas.

Ha! Well, I certainly didn't ask the question to be a radical gender warrior! It was an honest follow up question to his train of thought. Like other developmental things I follow his lead. I do not want to parent with an agenda, although kids see and hear what their parents do and we're a pretty normal looking household, but we sure talk about weird stuff.

I'm not out trying to get him to play with dolls. He likes his cars and pointy things and that's just fine.

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