Notes to self, parenting edition
Jul. 3rd, 2008 05:33 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
theatokosIn order to combat yesterday's "holy cow I'll never get anything done!" frame of mind, I have come up with some basic guidelines for myself:
*I am a morning person, therefore I am on baby duty in the morning; Adam is a night person and therefore is on baby duty after about 9pm so I can start winding down for bed
*Every day I will do some form of the following
+Yoga
+Meditation and prayer
+Sing - whether scales, full songs or just one short song to B; my lullaby of choice has become My Funny Valentine
+Read
+Nap/lie down - this is crucial; ideally I will do this before 3pm
+Pump once for Adam's night time feeding
+I will get dressed every day, including shoes, even if I don't leave the house
These things can be 5 minutes, 1 minute, or an hour, depending how the day is going. The point is to know that I do some of it every day and there is no Should or expectation; I just know those things keep me sane and happy.
*I will do a basic tidy every night so I don't feel overwhelmed in the morning. I am a woman who likes order.
*I will try to accomplish only the things that NEED to get done in a given day (like, laundry, pay bills, get groceries, appointments, etc) and then have a list of things that can happen should a day open up or I am extra rested (like, work on audition song, clean the hall closet, go for a walk, more serious academic reading, work for Work, etc).
Additionally, Adam and I are trying to encourage B to have more of a concept of night and day. Not like an infant needs a schedule (I'm not that anal retentive), but he often will sleep all morning and then get cranky in the afternoon, feeding constantly from 4 until midnight, fuss some more and then zonk out from 3am to whenever the next morning. Not good for mama and papa, or for the little guy. I'm trying to be more consistent about feeding in the day so I don't worry on those rare occasions when B decides to sleep for 5 hours straight at night. Plus, hopefully we can develop some sort of "night time" routine that will serve us well when B is older and more attuned to night time proper. I swear most of parenting is training the parents!
Other notes from today:
*Benn has a widow's peak. From whom did he inherit this??
*During tummy time today he rolled over!! Woot, developmental milestone!
*Turns out Adam and I practice/aim for attachment parenting
*Today I accomplished: getting dressed, 10 minutes of meditation, 15 minutes of easy yoga (it was a rough night last night), getting my mother a recipe she wanted, paying my bills, being Benn's mother, chatting with some friends
*I will accomplish later tonight: bathe Benn, brush the cats, print out EDD forms
edit Adam made this icon of me. It was taken two weeks after giving birth, at my birthday dinner.
*I am a morning person, therefore I am on baby duty in the morning; Adam is a night person and therefore is on baby duty after about 9pm so I can start winding down for bed
*Every day I will do some form of the following
+Yoga
+Meditation and prayer
+Sing - whether scales, full songs or just one short song to B; my lullaby of choice has become My Funny Valentine
+Read
+Nap/lie down - this is crucial; ideally I will do this before 3pm
+Pump once for Adam's night time feeding
+I will get dressed every day, including shoes, even if I don't leave the house
These things can be 5 minutes, 1 minute, or an hour, depending how the day is going. The point is to know that I do some of it every day and there is no Should or expectation; I just know those things keep me sane and happy.
*I will do a basic tidy every night so I don't feel overwhelmed in the morning. I am a woman who likes order.
*I will try to accomplish only the things that NEED to get done in a given day (like, laundry, pay bills, get groceries, appointments, etc) and then have a list of things that can happen should a day open up or I am extra rested (like, work on audition song, clean the hall closet, go for a walk, more serious academic reading, work for Work, etc).
Additionally, Adam and I are trying to encourage B to have more of a concept of night and day. Not like an infant needs a schedule (I'm not that anal retentive), but he often will sleep all morning and then get cranky in the afternoon, feeding constantly from 4 until midnight, fuss some more and then zonk out from 3am to whenever the next morning. Not good for mama and papa, or for the little guy. I'm trying to be more consistent about feeding in the day so I don't worry on those rare occasions when B decides to sleep for 5 hours straight at night. Plus, hopefully we can develop some sort of "night time" routine that will serve us well when B is older and more attuned to night time proper. I swear most of parenting is training the parents!
Other notes from today:
*Benn has a widow's peak. From whom did he inherit this??
*During tummy time today he rolled over!! Woot, developmental milestone!
*Turns out Adam and I practice/aim for attachment parenting
*Today I accomplished: getting dressed, 10 minutes of meditation, 15 minutes of easy yoga (it was a rough night last night), getting my mother a recipe she wanted, paying my bills, being Benn's mother, chatting with some friends
*I will accomplish later tonight: bathe Benn, brush the cats, print out EDD forms
edit Adam made this icon of me. It was taken two weeks after giving birth, at my birthday dinner.