Women do this because they want to feel in control. The logic is that if rape happens when a woman does X, then if they themselves don't do X, they will never be raped.
This culture assumes that the default condition of women is consenting: if we don't explicitly change it by verbalizing a NO, then people have the right to stick things into us. Imagine if men's bodily integrity were understood the same way:
"Well, Your Honor, he didn't SAY he didn't want me to shove my boot up his ass, so I figured it was okay."
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Date: 2010-02-15 05:19 pm (UTC)This culture assumes that the default condition of women is consenting: if we don't explicitly change it by verbalizing a NO, then people have the right to stick things into us. Imagine if men's bodily integrity were understood the same way:
"Well, Your Honor, he didn't SAY he didn't want me to shove my boot up his ass, so I figured it was okay."
And I'm so sorry. Too many of us have been there.