It's cruel to be kind
May. 20th, 2008 09:35 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
theatokosThis whole situation has been handled incredibly poorly. I am so angry and frustrated with my bosses right now. The thought of quitting -today, this afternoon- ran through my head. I think this problem lady needs to go, but my compassion and empathy for her continues to rise because she is getting jerked around.
I'm so upset.
Will report later on what actually goes down. Please send me some calming juju. I really need it.
Update
Well that was swift. Thank you all for your well wishes and calming juju. I felt surprisingly peaceful through it. Turns out my boss was firm but forward looking, and we were on the same page. Problem Lady was not a basket case; she said she suspected it was coming. Her calmness was relieving, but having to listen to her process was an exercise in true patience. Her self-realizations are not news to us - we have known her heart wasn't in this position for months! Her lack of clarity and self-knowledge was certainly clear to the rest of us. And it was painful to hear the same excuses again and to have to sit through her asking for feedback and then getting all defensive when we raised just one of those issues.
Now, I head off for nachos. If only I could down a beer too. Time for deep breathing and sun and life. We will begin the process of processing, of learning from this disaster in time. I have already begun planning a staff retreat for early fall so that the organization can move forward with what we've learned.
*deep breath out*
I'm so upset.
Will report later on what actually goes down. Please send me some calming juju. I really need it.
Update
Well that was swift. Thank you all for your well wishes and calming juju. I felt surprisingly peaceful through it. Turns out my boss was firm but forward looking, and we were on the same page. Problem Lady was not a basket case; she said she suspected it was coming. Her calmness was relieving, but having to listen to her process was an exercise in true patience. Her self-realizations are not news to us - we have known her heart wasn't in this position for months! Her lack of clarity and self-knowledge was certainly clear to the rest of us. And it was painful to hear the same excuses again and to have to sit through her asking for feedback and then getting all defensive when we raised just one of those issues.
Now, I head off for nachos. If only I could down a beer too. Time for deep breathing and sun and life. We will begin the process of processing, of learning from this disaster in time. I have already begun planning a staff retreat for early fall so that the organization can move forward with what we've learned.
*deep breath out*
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Date: 2008-05-20 05:40 pm (UTC):/
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Date: 2008-05-20 06:29 pm (UTC)Good for you for seeing clearly - because that is the virtue, the wisdom, behind your anger.
Love to you.
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Date: 2008-05-20 06:54 pm (UTC)I send you the quiet of a large koi pond in a Japanese garden. The fish are big and graceful and the water ripples slightly as they swim beneath the surface.
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