Our son NEVER slept in the same room with us. Because it wasn't the way things were done and because my husband needed his sleep. Yes, I know that sounds "anti-feminist". But it was true. He was working long odd hours and needed his sleep.
I think being in the parents room just adds to the problem for both baby and parents.
And a tip for later which seems to contradict what I am saying. Sometime after age three they wake in the middle of the night and want to get in your bed. The doctors then insisted you take them back to their room. Again and again. That way led to no sleep for everyone. Our solution was to have a quilt and pillow on the floor on my side of the bed (which was also near the heat). Son would just wander in and settle down to sleep beside the bed. After awhile I didn't even wake up. Eventually he didn't need to do that any more.
I remember my sister and I doing that - waking up in the middle of the night. I had horrible nightmares and was repeatedly told to go back to my own room. I lay much of the blame for my anxiety issues on this. My sister got away with the little blanket next to the bed thing because she was a sleep walker and couldn't "control herself".
I really enjoy bedsharing with B. For a few months when he was 4-6 months he did better next to the bed, but after that he's been sleeping more soundly with us.
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Date: 2009-05-12 04:43 am (UTC)I think being in the parents room just adds to the problem for both baby and parents.
And a tip for later which seems to contradict what I am saying. Sometime after age three they wake in the middle of the night and want to get in your bed. The doctors then insisted you take them back to their room. Again and again. That way led to no sleep for everyone. Our solution was to have a quilt and pillow on the floor on my side of the bed (which was also near the heat). Son would just wander in and settle down to sleep beside the bed. After awhile I didn't even wake up. Eventually he didn't need to do that any more.
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Date: 2009-05-12 11:51 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-05-12 01:10 pm (UTC)I really enjoy bedsharing with B. For a few months when he was 4-6 months he did better next to the bed, but after that he's been sleeping more soundly with us.
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Date: 2009-05-12 01:56 pm (UTC)