Rape is never the victims fault

[theatokos]

Women say some rape victims should take the blame

WHAT? I don't even need to read this entire article to know that women have internalized the hateful misogony of the patriarchy and suffer from self-loathing ideology. Why do women hate each other like this? Rape is NEVER the victim's fault. Even if you're comatose from drinking or you're walking naked down the street. Women make loads of stupid decisions all the time. And there are other consequences of the above actions: alcohol poisoning and the flu, perhaps. But rape? It is not a man's duty to 'punish' me for my stupid actions. Women and men may judge women who make stupid choices and think 'they got what they deserved', but that's not what it is about is it? No. It's about men thinking women are sex objects, that any woman who is passive enough is theirs for taking, that women are sub-human and do not have the dignity that men have. In cases of rape the blame is ALWAYS on the assailant. It is the perpetrator who cannot keep his hands (and other bits) to himself. It is HIS lack of self-control and his lack of honor for other living creatures.

I was date raped when I was 20. I take responsibility for my stupidness. I acknowledge that I was weak and had poor boundaries. I did not report it because it was so.... murky. I was up for fooling around. I was not up for sex. I said no. He didn't listen. We were in my bed. Am I to blame? If you say yes, defriend me right now.

Comments

[seaivy.livejournal.com]

And we live in a "Post- Feminist" world?
Patriarchal values are no longer the norm?
Doesn't seem so.
Young women must pick up the torch and raise your voices.
maybe some talk among young women about wise choices might be a good idea. If the culture isn't changing protection from those Patriarchal values is still necessary.

[ewigweibliche.livejournal.com]

Any one who claims to live in a post-feminist world clearly isn't living in this one.

[readthisandweep.livejournal.com]

Quite.

[keypike.livejournal.com]

Young women must pick up the torch and raise your voices.

Yes, this. It makes me sad to see so many young women distance themselves from feminism. There's a false sense of equality, and so little understanding of just how patriarchal our society is.

[msmidge.livejournal.com]

I was a feminist before I became a mother, but it wasn't until I was a mother that I understood how deeply patriarchal we still are, and how far we are from ever fixing it. I am sure that in my lifetime we aren't going to see equal parenting as the norm, for example, or respect for both men and women as parents by our workplaces.

[ewigweibliche.livejournal.com]

I was a feminist before becoming a mother, but there has been nothing like being pregnant, birthing and raising a child to hone my feminism and show me yet again how patriarchy/the medical-industrial complex/Big Business wants to control women's bodies and keep up locked into gender binaries.