Rape is never the victims fault

[theatokos]

Women say some rape victims should take the blame

WHAT? I don't even need to read this entire article to know that women have internalized the hateful misogony of the patriarchy and suffer from self-loathing ideology. Why do women hate each other like this? Rape is NEVER the victim's fault. Even if you're comatose from drinking or you're walking naked down the street. Women make loads of stupid decisions all the time. And there are other consequences of the above actions: alcohol poisoning and the flu, perhaps. But rape? It is not a man's duty to 'punish' me for my stupid actions. Women and men may judge women who make stupid choices and think 'they got what they deserved', but that's not what it is about is it? No. It's about men thinking women are sex objects, that any woman who is passive enough is theirs for taking, that women are sub-human and do not have the dignity that men have. In cases of rape the blame is ALWAYS on the assailant. It is the perpetrator who cannot keep his hands (and other bits) to himself. It is HIS lack of self-control and his lack of honor for other living creatures.

I was date raped when I was 20. I take responsibility for my stupidness. I acknowledge that I was weak and had poor boundaries. I did not report it because it was so.... murky. I was up for fooling around. I was not up for sex. I said no. He didn't listen. We were in my bed. Am I to blame? If you say yes, defriend me right now.

Comments

[ewigweibliche.livejournal.com]

I think conversations like this will be much easier once we've met in person later this month! Tone and intent in deep topics such as these can be hard to convey - unless we become academicians in our writing styles, and that's not my hope for my LJ.

Mostly, I feel like we were moving away from the basic topic of the original post, which was: women blaming other women for getting raped.

[gwydion1987.livejournal.com]

Yes I think so and am looking forward to it! (though it's the next month ;)).

I have a passion for jumping from a single situation to assumptions and discussions about the bigger pictures I see them interwoven with. If you feel that's inappropriate in a given context, just tell me so.

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Gwydion